Is this a hill you want to die on?
What are you trying to achieve?
I am, for all of my many faults, an extremely reflective individual. In fact, some (me) would list that among my faults. I ask myself these questions all the time. Often before a request leaves my mouth, but sometimes after.
Is this something I want to pursue?
Will the energy (and potential misery) be worth the end result?
Will I gain or lose respect by handling this situation in this way?
What do I want him/her to learn?
Will this help him/her grow as a person?
Is there enough time for this to be a battle?
Think. Think. Think.
Generally, here is what I've concluded:
Hills to die on
- Treating people with kindness
- Getting chores and homework done
- Health and hygiene matters
Not worth the battle
- Pretty much everything else.
- Yeah, ok, like everything else.
- For example. The precise standards of bedroom tidiness.
Breathe in, breathe out. Think.
What am I trying to achieve?